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    Re: Matchplay Etiquette?

    Engage with your opponent as you walk down the fairway - you'll soon sense whether or not he is interested in chatting.

    I'll add that I have a personal rule that if a match is close as we enter the final few holes I tend to pretty much shut up - I certainly put the banter and gay badinage away even if that's been the order of the day during the match to that point. You can never quite know 100% how seriously an opponent is taking a match, and so when things are still up for grabs I let our golf and respect for each others play and good shots do the talking. Also helps me focus.
    to infinity and beyond...

    ...well from 10.0 to 9.4 this year would be nice.

    And last medal of the year (Oct) saw me play to handicap but CSS was +1 so that was me down 0.2 from 8.3 to 8.1

    Job done

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    Re: Matchplay Etiquette?

    Quote Originally Posted by SwingsitlikeHogan View Post
    Engage with your opponent as you walk down the fairway - you'll soon sense whether or not he is interested in chatting.

    I'll add that I have a personal rule that if a match is close as we enter the final few holes I tend to pretty much shut up - I certainly put the banter and gay badinage away even if that's been the order of the day during the match to that point. You can never quite know 100% how seriously an opponent is taking a match, and so when things are still up for grabs I let our golf and respect for each others play and good shots do the talking. Also helps me focus.
    Spot on.
    I would also add that I would always compliment an opponent on a good shot.

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    Re: Matchplay Etiquette?

    I really donít understand people who donít talk and engage in conversation in Club knock outs... golf is about fun and being social. We are not pros and we are out playing for the love of the game.

    Of course... there is respect and etiquette at the correct times, but no chatter at all, come on..! Get a grip of yourself and some perspective on life.

    One guy at our club takes a buggy and brings his wife along for support... there is apparently no chatter between players but his wife makes small talk.

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    Re: Matchplay Etiquette?

    Quote Originally Posted by Mike07 View Post
    I really donít understand people who donít talk and engage in conversation in Club knock outs... golf is about fun and being social. We are not pros and we are out playing for the love of the game.

    Of course... there is respect and etiquette at the correct times, but no chatter at all, come on..! Get a grip of yourself and some perspective on life.

    One guy at our club takes a buggy and brings his wife along for support... there is apparently no chatter between players but his wife makes small talk.
    I think that you need to think about things more from your opponent or playing partner's perspective. No matter the context of your round - your opponent or PP might have had terrible or frustrating experiences in the past and this time is determined that things will be different. Or it may be the case that he has signficant difficult other personal stuff on his mind and so doesn't wish to chit-chat his way around a golf course - that might be upsetting for him - maybe he just wants to get round and off the course.

    Point is. A silent opponent might be so for a huge variety of reasons - and he might not want to explain. You just need to accept that that is how it's going to be. If he wishes to talk with you during the round then he will. But I suggest - after the round please don't be critical of him to your friends or other members - or talk negatively about the way he acted.
    to infinity and beyond...

    ...well from 10.0 to 9.4 this year would be nice.

    And last medal of the year (Oct) saw me play to handicap but CSS was +1 so that was me down 0.2 from 8.3 to 8.1

    Job done

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    Re: Matchplay Etiquette?

    Quote Originally Posted by Mike07 View Post
    I really donít understand people who donít talk and engage in conversation in Club knock outs... golf is about fun and being social. We are not pros and we are out playing for the love of the game.

    Of course... there is respect and etiquette at the correct times, but no chatter at all, come on..! Get a grip of yourself and some perspective on life.

    One guy at our club takes a buggy and brings his wife along for support... there is apparently no chatter between players but his wife makes small talk.
    Spot on.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SwingsitlikeHogan View Post
    Your opponent or PP might have had terrible or frustrating experiences in the past and this time is determined that things will be different. Or it may be the case that he has signficant difficult other personal stuff on his mind and so doesn't wish to chit-chat his way around a golf course - that might be upsetting for him - maybe he just wants to get round and off the course.
    Then what is he doing out there playing golf in the first place..! Of course I respect other people's opinions and if they don't want to talk, then I'm not going to bother them... nor do I have any intentions or anything to gain from trash talking them behind their back. Not my style.

    My point was simply that I don't get it... I personally just cannot understand the 'enjoyment' of playing a round in silence and not getting to know your PP.

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    Re: Matchplay Etiquette?

    Quote Originally Posted by Mike07 View Post
    Then what is he doing out there playing golf in the first place..! Of course I respect other people's opinions and if they don't want to talk, then I'm not going to bother them... nor do I have any intentions or anything to gain from trash talking them behind their back. Not my style.

    My point was simply that I don't get it... I personally just cannot understand the 'enjoyment' of playing a round in silence and not getting to know your PP.
    What is he doing out there? Have you never had failure after failure in a competition or competitions and reached the point where you are absolutely determined to break the run of failure. And to do that you might decide to be less of the happy-chatty 'it's only a club match - no big deal' person that you usually are. You decide - for once - to take it more seriously as you are very fed up with the run of failure.

    And then also - not that long ago I played a K/O match when my personal circumstances were such that I really didn't feel like playing. But I had no option for re-scheduling. I did not want to just concede - as I am not a fan of entering competitions and conceding matches - I don't think that that is fair to others in the comp apart from anything else. Besides. The period from the match I was to play to the next round end date was sufficient that I felt I'd be in a better place. So I played despite how I felt, I doubt I was much fun or company during the round. But that said - I cannot imagine that I was totally silent all the way round - but if someone wanted to be like that then so be it. Up to them.

    I would comment differently were my playing partner, competitor or opponent and myself playing in a friendly casual roll-up.
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    to infinity and beyond...

    ...well from 10.0 to 9.4 this year would be nice.

    And last medal of the year (Oct) saw me play to handicap but CSS was +1 so that was me down 0.2 from 8.3 to 8.1

    Job done

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    Quote Originally Posted by SwingsitlikeHogan View Post
    Have you never had failure after failure in a competition or competitions and reached the point where you are absolutely determined to break the run of failure. And to do that you might decide to be less of the happy-chatty 'it's only a club match - no big deal' person that you usually are. You decide - for once - to take it more seriously as you are very fed up with the run of failure.
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    Nope, never... I guess I just don't take it as seriously as others.

    All valid points you make, but like I said above... I enjoy the social part of the game, whether thats in a k/o, roll up or game with mates. The thought of 4 hours in silence scares me haha

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    Re: Matchplay Etiquette?

    Quote Originally Posted by Mike07 View Post
    Nope, never... I guess I just don't take it as seriously as others.

    All valid points you make, but like I said above... I enjoy the social part of the game, whether thats in a k/o, roll up or game with mates. The thought of 4 hours in silence scares me haha
    Lucky you I have
    to infinity and beyond...

    ...well from 10.0 to 9.4 this year would be nice.

    And last medal of the year (Oct) saw me play to handicap but CSS was +1 so that was me down 0.2 from 8.3 to 8.1

    Job done

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    Re: Matchplay Etiquette?

    Had my first competitive matchplay game last night. The bloke I was playing was great company, very friendly and chatty, and very encouraging when I hit a poor shot and very complimentary when I hit a good one.

    He beat me convincingly (6&5), which was what I expected as he should have been giving me 8 shots, but it was a really enjoyable experience, and I can't wait to do it again, hopefully in a comp when I get my full allowance!

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